What to say to your student when things get tough

Has someone ever said to you, “Just try it, it’s easy!” and then you found out the task they coaxed you into trying was painfully difficult? Did this leave you feeling exceptionally capable or downright stupid…and embarrassed?

When this happens to the average adult, it doesn’t take long for them to conclude two things:

  • This person who’s trying to help me is nuts…and definitely not to be trusted!
  • Why should I try if I can’t even handle the easy stuff?

Quite frequently I overhear well-meaning parents and educators using the “Just try it, it’s easy!” approach in an attempt to urge a reluctant child into trying something they’re afraid of. When the child finds the task easy, all is right with the world. When they don’t, they’re confronted with the pain of seeing that they might be so slow that they can’t even do something really, really “easy”!

Keep reading to find out how to help motivate your student to keep working through difficult tasks.

Originally posted 2011-09-22 16:57:17. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Save most of your words for happy times

What’s the best way to make an otherwise effective technique backfire? It’s simple: Talk too much.

There exists a basic rule about doing discipline with kids of all ages:

The more words we use when our kids are acting up, 
the LESS effective we become.

Save most of your words for happy times.

What do you do during unhappy times? Show empathy, give choices, and let consequences do the heavy lifting. Here are more ideas.

Read the rest here.

Originally posted 2016-03-30 17:13:30. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Worry is like a rocking chair

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Originally posted 2016-10-05 06:50:01. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

You were born… 

Originally posted 2017-01-16 17:17:34. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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