April 20th, 2020
Some students struggle with getting started on homework or other work at home. It can become a battle of wills or a temptation to issue threats and assert control. Love and Logic suggests looking for ways to share control and give choices, before things get difficult:
- Will you be starting your schoolwork now or in five minutes?
- What do you want to start with? Math or reading?
- Do you want to make a goal of working for 30 minutes before your break, or would 25 minutes be better?
- Will you be doing your work while sitting or standing?
- Do you think it would be best to draft something on pencil or paper… or begin your work directly on the computer?
- Would you like my help or would you prefer working alone?
- Do you want to learn in the kitchen or in the family room?
- Will you be working while keeping your body still, or would you rather see how much you can wiggle while still getting it done?
- Should we start with the hardest part first or the easiest?
- Would you rather help me with chores or get started on your schoolwork?
The key to success with this technique involves remembering three things:
- Give most of your choices before your child becomes resistant… not after.
- With each choice provide two options, each of which you like.
- Be prepared to choose for your child if they don’t select an option you provided.
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