Loving your kids enough to let them fail

I’ve come to a conclusion regarding my kids: I have to love them enough to let them fail. Let me clarify. We all want the best for our kids. We want them to grow up happy, healthy, and most of all successful. We put a lot of emphasis on that last bit, successful. Why? Simple. We won’t be around forever, and we want to know that they’re going to be okay when we’re gone. Something that has been bothering me though, is that in trying so hard to make them succeed, we’ve set them up to truly fail.

We’ve made them afraid of failure. It’s as if we’ve come to the conclusion that if they don’t receive recognition or reward for everything they do, their tiny egos won’t be able to handle it. Why are more and more kids presenting with crippling cases of depression and anxiety? Because we don’t let them learn to deal with failure, frustration, and adversity. We don’t let them develop the tools to turn failure into success. We let them skip the work and go straight to the reward, never showing them how they’re supposed to get there.

It’s our job to teach them that losing isn’t the end of the world and that wanting something doesn’t equal deserving it. They have to learn that just showing up isn’t enough if they want to win the trophy or the gold star. The only truly worthwhile participation award is experience. If they want the gold, they’re going to have to work for it.

I’m not going to do your homework for you. I’m not going to jump up and down and scream at your little league coach that you need more play time when there are other kids who are performing better for the team. If you want to make the starting line-up, it’s going to take time. It’s going to take practice. It’s going to hurt, and it’s going to take sacrifice. You have to make the decision if it’s worth it. I can’t make that decision for you. By the way, I still love you.

The rest of the article is worth reading. Mistakes are a good teacher. Students need to learn that mistakes can help them to success in the future. But students can’t learn this if they aren’t allowed to make mistakes or to feel the consequences of their mistakes.

Read the rest:

I’m Learning to Let My Kids Fail Now – So They’ll Be Successful Later https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/lessons-kids-learn-from-failure/

Originally posted 2018-10-06 09:12:45. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Class activities for Monday, February 24

Spelling: None today. We’ll be working on our leadership notebooks during spelling this again week.

Cursive: Ten cursive sentences, seven or more words each, are due on Fridays.

Reading: We read a narrative nonfiction story about terrible child labor was in the 1900s.

Writing: Students worked on drafting their persuasive letter to the editor again today.

A persuasive letter is due Sunday, March 1. Homework on weekdays is to work on writing for 15 minutes. Students should be done with prewriting by now and should have three paragraphs drafted by tonight.

Here are some resources to help with this project:

Math: Students worked on dividing using place value to break apart large numbers. Homework on weekdays is to practice math for 15 minutes using MobyMax or Khan Academy.

Science: We read more about particles and students used a simulation to observe what happens to air particles when a sound is made. Homework is to finish p. 27 started in class.

Social Studies: We started to read an article about market economies and to write notes about it.

Character Strength: We are learning about zest and enthusiasm this week.

Notes:

  • Celebration of Learning is Wednesday, March 4 from 4:30-7:00 pm. Come see your student’s leadership notebook, writing portfolio, and tour the school!
  • Spring conferences are March 3 and 5. Students with academic or behavior concerns may be asked to attend a conference. View, sign up or edit your conference time here.
  • Is your student doing a Daily Homework Time? Here’s a sample schedule and more ideas to get started.
  • Check out our class calendar to stay up-to-date.
  • View grades, assignments, and attendance at Jupiter Ed.

Our Mission:
All students in Room 130 will do their best and get ready for 5th grade.

Class activities for Friday, February 21

Spelling: None today. We’ll be working on our leadership notebooks during spelling this week.

Cursive: Ten cursive sentences, seven or more words each, are due on Fridays.

Reading: We read about how sound travels through the particles of different materials.

Writing: Students worked on drafting their persuasive letter to the editor today.

A persuasive letter is due Sunday, March 1. Homework on weekdays is to work on writing for 15 minutes. Students should be done with prewriting and drafting at this point.

Here are some resources to help with this project:

Math: Students worked on dividing multiples of 10, 100, and 1000 today. Homework on weekdays is to practice math for 15 minutes using MobyMax or Khan Academy.

Science: Students tested different materials to see if sound travels through them. They learned that sound travels through air, water, and solid objects.

Social Studies: Today was a leader lesson about making a plan to reach a goal.

Character Strength: None this week.

Notes:

  • Celebration of Learning is Wednesday, March 4 from 4:30-7:00 pm. Come see your student’s leadership notebook, writing portfolio, and tour the school!
  • Spring conferences are March 3 and 5. Students with academic or behavior concerns may be asked to attend a conference. View, sign up or edit your conference time here.
  • Is your student doing a Daily Homework Time? Here’s a sample schedule and more ideas to get started.
  • Check out our class calendar to stay up-to-date.
  • View grades, assignments, and attendance at Jupiter Ed.

Our Mission:
All students in Room 130 will do their best and get ready for 5th grade.

Class activities for Thursday, February 20

Spelling: None today. We’ll be working on our leadership notebooks during spelling this week.

Cursive: Ten cursive sentences, seven or more words each, are due on Fridays.

Reading: None today due to our field trip to Whiting Auditorium to watch a performance about Rosa Parks.

Writing: Students worked on prewriting their persuasive letter to the editor project again today and we had prewriting conferences.

A persuasive letter is due Sunday, March 1. Homework on weekdays is to work on writing for 15 minutes. Students should be prewriting about their idea to improve our school and should be done with prewriting tonight.

Here are some resources to help with this project:

Math: Students worked on dividing with remainders today. Homework on weekdays is to practice math for 15 minutes using MobyMax or Khan Academy.

Science: None today due to our field trip.

Social Studies: None today due to our field trip.

Character Strength: None this week.

Notes:

  • Celebration of Learning is Wednesday, March 4 from 4:30-7:00 pm. Come see your student’s leadership notebook, writing portfolio, and tour the school!
  • Spring conferences are March 3 and 5. Students with academic or behavior concerns may be asked to attend a conference. View, sign up or edit your conference time here.
  • Is your student doing a Daily Homework Time? Here’s a sample schedule and more ideas to get started.
  • Check out our class calendar to stay up-to-date.
  • View grades, assignments, and attendance at Jupiter Ed.

Our Mission:
All students in Room 130 will do their best and get ready for 5th grade.

Class activities for Wednesday, February 19

Spelling: None today. We’ll be working on our leadership notebooks during spelling this week.

Cursive: Ten cursive sentences, seven or more words each, are due on Fridays.

Reading: Students read about Civil Rights heroes today.

Writing: Students worked on prewriting their persuasive letter to the editor project today.

A persuasive letter is due Sunday, March 1. Homework on weekdays is to work on writing for 15 minutes. Students should have an idea to improve our school selected, and should be prewriting at this point.

Here are some resources to help with this project:

Math: Students worked on interpreting remainders today. Homework on weekdays is to practice math for 15 minutes using MobyMax or Khan Academy.

Science: We read about dolphin communication today and wrote an explanation about how a mother dolphin could communicate with her calf at a distance.

Social Studies: None today.

Character Strength: None this week.

Notes:

  • Our field trip to Whiting Auditorium is tomorrow! Students will be viewing a performance about Rosa Parks.
  • Celebration of Learning is Wednesday, March 4 from 4:30-7:00 pm. Come see your student’s leadership notebook, writing portfolio, and tour the school!
  • Spring conferences are March 3 and 5. Students with academic or behavior concerns may be asked to attend a conference. View, sign up or edit your conference time here.
  • Is your student doing a Daily Homework Time? Here’s a sample schedule and more ideas to get started.
  • Check out our class calendar to stay up-to-date.
  • View grades, assignments, and attendance at Jupiter Ed.

Our Mission:
All students in Room 130 will do their best and get ready for 5th grade.