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December 10th, 2024

Save most of your words for happy times

What’s the best way to make an otherwise effective technique backfire? It’s simple: Talk too much.
There exists a basic rule about doing discipline with kids of all ages:
The more words we use when our kids are acting up,
the LESS effective we become.
Save most of your words for happy times.

What do you do during unhappy times? Show empathy, give choices, and let consequences do the heavy lifting. Here are more ideas.

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Originally posted 2016-03-30 17:13:30. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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December 3rd, 2024

Praise Junkies?

How much praise I offer, and for what, is a subject that I have to deal with a lot in class. Below is a quiz from Love and Logic to shed some light on the issue of praise in your home.

Take the following quiz to see whether you are creating responsibly independent kids…or praiseaholics:
When my kids succeed on a task, I recognize their effort and their good feelings…rather than telling them how happy it makes me.
I demonstrate that I love them, even when I don’t necessarily love their behavior.
I allow my kids to see me resisting peer pressure…rather than always trying to project a perfect image.
I provide praise rarely…and only when they have done something truly praiseworthy.
My kids often overhear me talking about how I make my decisions based on my own beliefs…rather than seeing me make decisions based on what “everybody else is doing.”
I allow my kids to make affordable mistakes and learn from them…rather than constantly telling them what to do.
The more “yes” answers you gave, the more likely your kids will learn to resist peer pressure and lead lives where their happiness is based on doing the right thing rather than trying to please everyone.

Here’s the rest of the article.

Originally posted 2014-03-13 16:34:13. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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November 26th, 2024

The Secret to a Well-Behaved Child: Regular Bedtime

Young children who don’t have a regular bedtime behave worse than kids who go to sleep at the same time each night, a new study suggests.
British researchers found that both mothers and teachers rated 7-year-olds who had inconsistent bedtimes as being more hyperactive than their better-rested peers, and as having more social, emotional and conduct problems.
The results also revealed that behavior grew worse the more years a child spent without a firm bedtime. But the good news is that children’s behavior noticeably improved when they switched to a scheduled bedtime.

The study also linked having an earlier bedtime to better behavior. If you’re looking for a strategy to try at home to address behavior, a consistent or earlier bedtime might be worth considering.

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Originally posted 2013-10-14 07:18:32. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

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