October 21st, 2020
If your children are constantly battling you in the morning over getting ready quick enough, finding their supplies, and getting out the door on their own and without constant reminders, then Love and Logic has some tips that might help:
- Schedule some time to plan and practice when you aren’t in a hurry.
- Take yourself out of the loop as much as possible (the more you have to remind, the less your student is learning to do these things by themselves).
- Focus on getting yourself ready. This is a good way to model how things ought to be.
- Look for ways to give logical consequences, such as a student forgetting their homework or having to go to school in mismatched clothes.
- Create a backup plan for if a student doesn’t get ready on time.
Here’s what Love and Logic has to say about the last point:
Some parents find it wise to have someone secretly on call. If the kids miss the bus, this person can arrive and charge them for taxi service to school.
By the time they reach kindergarten age, our kids… with good training and consistency on our part… can learn to take primary responsibility for getting themselves up and ready to go each and every day. Kids who learn this find it far more natural to assume personal responsibility in other areas of their lives.
You can read the rest of the article here.
Love and Logic Institute, Inc.
Originally posted 2017-03-01 12:53:26. Republished by Blog Post Promoter
October 14th, 2020
Wise parents aren’t surprised by lying. They understand that children will lie in certain situations.
But that realization doesn’t make lying acceptable. Here’s a way to address the problem:
Very few humans, including adults, are like young George Washington in the cherry tree story. Most people, including children, tend to lie to protect themselves. If the youngster didn’t brush his teeth, and the parent asks, “Did you brush your teeth?” the answer will probably be a lie. So, why ask in the first place?
A better approach might be to say, “I hope you’re protecting your teeth by brushing. I’ve been a little worried for you since I pay for the good dentist reports and you pay for the bad ones. I hope you get a good report from the dentist.”
And yes, a Love and Logic parent would have the child pay for the bad report.
Read more about how to address lying.
Originally posted 2012-05-12 12:54:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter