Category Archive for 'Parent Tips'

The importance of self-control

Thursday, June 24th, 2021

Have you heard of the Marshmallow Test? Here’s an idea of what it’s about:

Researchers at Stanford created this simple test measure self-control in a student. What they found is that two-thirds of the students couldn’t delay their gratification to wait for something better. But one-third of those students did show self-control.

And after many years, researchers checked-in with those students to see how they were doing. Every single one of them were successful! It seems that their ability to show self-control helped them focus on what was important and to delay gratification. That helped them focus on the “big picture,” persevere through difficulties, and to steer clear of negative choices.

So what can we learn from this? Self-control and waiting for what we want is important. It’s something worth trying to develop at school and home. See if you can find ways to help your student learn to wait for what he wants: TV shows, video games, playing, using technology, snacks. If students can learn to wait for small things now, they may be able to use this self-control in bigger more important issues later.

Here’s another video about this research.

Originally posted 2016-09-19 17:45:28. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Should you ignore lying?

Thursday, June 17th, 2021

Wise parents aren’t surprised by lying. They understand that children will lie in certain situations.

But that realization doesn’t make lying acceptable. Here’s a way to address the problem:

Very few humans, including adults, are like young George Washington in the cherry tree story. Most people, including children, tend to lie to protect themselves. If the youngster didn’t brush his teeth, and the parent asks, “Did you brush your teeth?” the answer will probably be a lie. So, why ask in the first place?

A better approach might be to say, “I hope you’re protecting your teeth by brushing. I’ve been a little worried for you since I pay for the good dentist reports and you pay for the bad ones. I hope you get a good report from the dentist.”

And yes, a Love and Logic parent would have the child pay for the bad report.

Read more about how to address lying.

Originally posted 2012-05-12 12:54:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Progress

Thursday, June 10th, 2021

Originally posted 2018-02-11 13:49:35. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

For every minute you are angry…

Thursday, June 3rd, 2021

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Originally posted 2016-06-18 07:02:54. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Time

Wednesday, May 26th, 2021

Originally posted 2019-09-25 17:32:15. Republished by Blog Post Promoter