Category Archive for 'Parent Tips'

Right, not easy

Sunday, October 14th, 2018

Originally posted 2017-04-19 18:56:26. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Don’t quit

Sunday, October 7th, 2018

Originally posted 2017-01-21 07:07:27. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Loving your kids enough to let them fail

Saturday, October 6th, 2018

I’ve come to a conclusion regarding my kids: I have to love them enough to let them fail. Let me clarify. We all want the best for our kids. We want them to grow up happy, healthy, and most of all successful. We put a lot of emphasis on that last bit, successful. Why? Simple. We won’t be around forever, and we want to know that they’re going to be okay when we’re gone. Something that has been bothering me though, is that in trying so hard to make them succeed, we’ve set them up to truly fail.

We’ve made them afraid of failure. It’s as if we’ve come to the conclusion that if they don’t receive recognition or reward for everything they do, their tiny egos won’t be able to handle it. Why are more and more kids presenting with crippling cases of depression and anxiety? Because we don’t let them learn to deal with failure, frustration, and adversity. We don’t let them develop the tools to turn failure into success. We let them skip the work and go straight to the reward, never showing them how they’re supposed to get there.

It’s our job to teach them that losing isn’t the end of the world and that wanting something doesn’t equal deserving it. They have to learn that just showing up isn’t enough if they want to win the trophy or the gold star. The only truly worthwhile participation award is experience. If they want the gold, they’re going to have to work for it.

I’m not going to do your homework for you. I’m not going to jump up and down and scream at your little league coach that you need more play time when there are other kids who are performing better for the team. If you want to make the starting line-up, it’s going to take time. It’s going to take practice. It’s going to hurt, and it’s going to take sacrifice. You have to make the decision if it’s worth it. I can’t make that decision for you. By the way, I still love you.

The rest of the article is worth reading. Mistakes are a good teacher. Students need to learn that mistakes can help them to success in the future. But students can’t learn this if they aren’t allowed to make mistakes or to feel the consequences of their mistakes.

Read the rest:

I’m Learning to Let My Kids Fail Now – So They’ll Be Successful Later

Don’t let your problems multiply!

Monday, October 1st, 2018

In the movie, Gremlins, Billy gets an interesting pet from his father with some specific rules. One of them is, “never get him wet.” Later Billy gets careless and his one pet Mogwai turns into six! And everyone who’s seen the movie knows how that turns out. If Billy only had solved his problem when it was small. He could have kept water far away. He could have told his dad about his screw up and got some help with all the extra pets. But instead, he tried to ignore the problem and pretend nothing had happened. Later, his one problem turns into 50 crazy Gremlins destroying his town!

Even though we won’t be fighting Gremlins anytime soon, our regular problems act the same way. We either solve our problems when they are small, or they will multiply! Turn in a library book on time, or pay a fine. Follow the speed limit, or pay a ticket. Get to work on time, or get docked some pay. Turn in your cursive on time, or use your recess to finish. Sometimes students have to learn this lesson the hard way as they ignore or miss a limit and have to pay a consequence. Eventually they will learn to be proactive and get after their problems before their problems get after them!

Gremlins (2/6) Movie CLIP – Multiplying Mogwai (1984) HD

Gremlins movie clips: BUY THE MOVIE: Don’t miss the HOTTEST NEW TRAILERS: CLIP DESCRIPTION: Billy (Zach Galligan) and Pete (Corey Feldman) watch as a wet Gizmo spawns five more creatures. FILM DESCRIPTION: “Don’t expose him to bright light. Don’t ever get him wet. And don’t ever, ever feed him after midnight.”

React vs. Respond

Sunday, September 30th, 2018

The American College of Pediatricians has a good article about the difference between reacting versus responsding to kids.

Reacting means that you meet your child’s emotionally-charged behavior with your own emotionally-charged reply. Responding, on the other hand, gives your child permission to express their big emotions, ideas and feelings without criticism, shame or guilt.”

Read the rest here.


Originally posted 2016-04-11 19:47:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter