Category Archive for 'Parent Tips'

If it’s important

Sunday, June 17th, 2018

Should you ignore lying?

Sunday, June 10th, 2018

Wise parents aren’t surprised by lying. They understand that children will lie in certain situations.

But that realization doesn’t make lying acceptable. Here’s a way to address the problem:

Very few humans, including adults, are like young George Washington in the cherry tree story. Most people, including children, tend to lie to protect themselves. If the youngster didn’t brush his teeth, and the parent asks, “Did you brush your teeth?” the answer will probably be a lie. So, why ask in the first place?

A better approach might be to say, “I hope you’re protecting your teeth by brushing. I’ve been a little worried for you since I pay for the good dentist reports and you pay for the bad ones. I hope you get a good report from the dentist.”

And yes, a Love and Logic parent would have the child pay for the bad report.

Read more about how to address lying.

Originally posted 2012-05-12 12:54:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

For writing, do this, not this!

Sunday, June 3rd, 2018

Parents often ask how to help with writing. It’s not as black and white as spelling or math. Here are some guidelines.

Bottom line: ask a bunch of questions (not telling your student what to do), and to let the student type everything. Read below for the specifics.

StepDo this!Don’t do this!
PrewritingAsk your student to think about special memories, events, or ideas to include. Ask them to make a list or web.Try not to assign topics or say, “Just write about….” Instead, ask questions to prompt thinking.
DraftingThis is the time to write ideas. Continue to ask questions: What happens next? What do you have left to write about? What else could you write? How does it end? Read their writing and ask curious questions. Point out places that are hard to understand, seem to move too fast, or need more details.Don’t type for your student. Let them type their own story. Don’t suggest entire sentences; let your student think of what to write. Point out parts that you had a hard time picturing, and ask questions: What did this look like? What did this character say? What else did you learn about this topic? Don’t focus on spelling or editing at this point.
RevisingThis is the time to look at the story again and find ways to make it stronger and better. Ask more questions. Point out places where details are missing. Ask questions about the beginning, middle and the end. Help them notice if they are overusing words or if their sentences are short and choppy. Ask your student to think of parts to remove or add.Don’t “fix” the story for your student by adding details or sentences. Just continue to ask questions wherever the writing is too short, hard to understand, off topic, or difficult to read. Ask questions so that your student will see for themselves the areas to improve. Still don’t focus on spelling or editing. This time is for revising ideas, and only the student should be adding new ideas or removing.
EditingHelp your student correct spelling, capitalization and other editing mistakes. Print out the writing and mark mistakes. Or mark the mistakes using the electronic tool we are using.Don’t fix mistakes for your student. Instead, just mark the mistakes. Each student should correct their own mistakes and not have someone else typing their paper. Even better if you just make some marks in the beginning, and then have the student continue to find other errors on their own. The goal is for each student to be able to self-edit.
PublishingHelp your student think of any ways to make the writing presentable for the reader.Please don’t type, retype, or change the story. Point out areas that the student could correct, if needed.

See more on the writing page of the site.

For tech-savvy parents:

  • Have your student share their writing with you at your Google account (don’t have one? Create one! It’s free. Let me know and I’ll show you how).
  • You can add comments like I do and check your student’s progress.

Originally posted 2014-09-27 10:57:49. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Time

Sunday, May 27th, 2018

Originally posted 2017-08-28 07:40:18. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

How to stop arguing with your kids

Sunday, May 20th, 2018

Judy saved her own life. She used to listen when her kids argued with her. She used to fall for their manipulation. When her teen daughter said, “You love Billy more than me!” she used to get upset and insist, “That’s not true! I love you BOTH!”

Now she takes better care of herself. When the arguing and manipulation start, Judy goes brain dead. She doesn’t listen to the words lest she be tempted to do something dumb – like respond.

Originally posted 2011-09-14 16:22:02. Republished by Blog Post Promoter