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All Pro Dad has a good article about motivating boys at school and home. If you have a boy that sometimes needs a little “kickstart” to work on homework, chores, or responsibilities, here are some ideas:

1. Treat boys like boys.

2. Bring Back Recess.

3. Make sure they’re thirsty.

4. Encourage.

5. Take the Goodies out of His Room.

Read the rest of the article for an explanation of each point.

Originally posted 2014-01-21 09:10:38. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Wise parents aren’t surprised by lying. They understand that children will lie in certain situations.

But that realization doesn’t make lying acceptable. Here’s a way to address the problem:

Very few humans, including adults, are like young George Washington in the cherry tree story. Most people, including children, tend to lie to protect themselves. If the youngster didn’t brush his teeth, and the parent asks, “Did you brush your teeth?” the answer will probably be a lie. So, why ask in the first place?

A better approach might be to say, “I hope you’re protecting your teeth by brushing. I’ve been a little worried for you since I pay for the good dentist reports and you pay for the bad ones. I hope you get a good report from the dentist.”

And yes, a Love and Logic parent would have the child pay for the bad report.

Read more about how to address lying.

Originally posted 2012-05-12 12:54:00. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Originally posted 2017-08-14 15:30:45. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

Originally posted 2019-09-07 19:07:56. Republished by Blog Post Promoter

I’ve come to a conclusion regarding my kids: I have to love them enough to let them fail. Let me clarify. We all want the best for our kids. We want them to grow up happy, healthy, and most of all successful. We put a lot of emphasis on that last bit, successful. Why? Simple. We won’t be around forever, and we want to know that they’re going to be okay when we’re gone. Something that has been bothering me though, is that in trying so hard to make them succeed, we’ve set them up to truly fail.

We’ve made them afraid of failure. It’s as if we’ve come to the conclusion that if they don’t receive recognition or reward for everything they do, their tiny egos won’t be able to handle it. Why are more and more kids presenting with crippling cases of depression and anxiety? Because we don’t let them learn to deal with failure, frustration, and adversity. We don’t let them develop the tools to turn failure into success. We let them skip the work and go straight to the reward, never showing them how they’re supposed to get there.

It’s our job to teach them that losing isn’t the end of the world and that wanting something doesn’t equal deserving it. They have to learn that just showing up isn’t enough if they want to win the trophy or the gold star. The only truly worthwhile participation award is experience. If they want the gold, they’re going to have to work for it.

I’m not going to do your homework for you. I’m not going to jump up and down and scream at your little league coach that you need more play time when there are other kids who are performing better for the team. If you want to make the starting line-up, it’s going to take time. It’s going to take practice. It’s going to hurt, and it’s going to take sacrifice. You have to make the decision if it’s worth it. I can’t make that decision for you. By the way, I still love you.

The rest of the article is worth reading. Mistakes are a good teacher. Students need to learn that mistakes can help them to success in the future. But students can’t learn this if they aren’t allowed to make mistakes or to feel the consequences of their mistakes.

Read the rest:

I’m Learning to Let My Kids Fail Now – So They’ll Be Successful Later https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/lessons-kids-learn-from-failure/

Originally posted 2018-10-06 09:12:45. Republished by Blog Post Promoter